All mummies have moments about their doubt. They wonder if they’re doing the right thing or way for their children. Or they’re try their best to do better for their children. I also have moments of self doubt when after having Marcus. So, if you know that you’re not confidence with yourself to be a mummy, just look through the ways below :

1) Don’t compare - It’s hard to avoid comparing, every mummy will compare their children to others. In my opinion, I get to know more about different children’s behaviour and growth from my friends, but I just use it as reference. It doesn’t mean that I need to follow everything, it will make me nervous and worry.

2) Don’t be pressured to take advice - As a mother, I’m sure we will receive a lot of advice from parents, relatives or friends. Your mum will tell you that your baby crying because he or she needs you to carry him or her, not milk and bla bla bla. Or your relatives and friends tell you that give your baby pacifier or put him or her in a swing to ease you. Whoever the advice comes from, dont care about it if you feel right to you.

3) Trust Your Feeling - follow your own feeling whether you are bringing up your kids the right way. Try not to listen too much advice or opinions from others, because you know your children well than others, right?

4) Free Time For Yourself - Many mothers often busy with their children and families that they forget to take care of themselves. When you are too tired or exhausted, your child is not going get the best from you. So, find your ME time to recharge and enjoy what you like to do, like shopping, cooking, blogging…

5) Basic Knowledge - It’s useful to have basic knowledge such as on baby care and the behaviour of children in different age. Read more from magazines or books from time to time.  But these all just an advice or guide, remember follow your own sense as a mother always.

6) Take things easy - Stop complain to yourself for not managing everything well as before like cleaning up your house, cooking. For example, take it easy when you see your children dirty their clothes or face or even hands and legs, and he’’s not having a clean, shiny face all the time and you get angry with them. This is not showed that you’re not a good mummy if ur children with dirty face sometimes.  

7) Forgive yourself - I know some of my friends feel guity after scolding or screamed at their child or even with unkind words. Feel bad and apologise, but dont ever think that you’re the worst mother in the world, forgive yourself and leave it behind. Everyone does have their temper, try not to do it again, control your mood. Try again tomorrow if you can do it today.

8 ) Enjoy with your children - we cannot just think of bring up children is one of your job. We need to enjoy them every moment with our children. Enjoy every achievements instead of worrying over what he cant do yet. Be happy and laugh together. When your child make you in trouble, just think of the happiest moment that together with your child. 

I think it’s that all for me, any other points that I left out, please leave yourcomment and let me know