I am sure all parents and older people will teach their children and grandchildren not to throw rubbish everywhere but in dustbin or waster paper basket. I know many people like to throw rubbish out from their cars. My hubby was one of them before, but after I scolded him ‘kuat-kuat’, he didn’t do it again.

I went to a insurance company to get an auto insurance quote the other days. There were two ladies and a kid who’s eating ice cream walked in front of me. Before they walked into the office, the kid gave the ice cream stick to her po po. I was really shocked when her po po just simply throw the ice cream stick in the drain while the kid’s mummy is standing at the entrance waiting for them. They felt nothing at all. LOL!!!

The kid is in her age of 5 to 6. I wonder why her mummy not advise or talk it out. You know the kid saw how’s her po po threw the rubbish in the drain. Kids learn very fast. How come they don’t show a good example in front of a kid? I am sure there are many dustbins or waste paper baskets in the office.

Marcus is getting very close to his grandparents especially his kao fu even though they just meet up during weekend. My kid likes them much, you know why? Because they always buy him toys and sweets. Frankily, I really not like it. They’re really spoilt him. Every time when we go to my parents’ house, my kid sure go and open the fridge, look and find if he can get anything. Well, I think most kids are like him too.

I definitely not like my kid eat too many sweets, even one also cannot if possible, not too hard. Too straight? He has tooth decay now and I brought him to visit dentist weeks ago. The dentist told me can’t do anything, just brush his teeth day and night every day, wait the teeth change when he grows older.

Most of the time I show my NOT HAPPY face when my parents or others offer my kid those unhealthy snacks and tit bits. My father always say that I must let him try and eat everything. Yes, I do agree and let him eat whatever he likes except unhealthy food like fried food. Not that I won’t allow him to eat, but hopefully not to eat. LOL!!! Just see there are so many cases of diseases increasing day by day. How about for the next ten, twenty years? What will happen to our next generations?

My father always complain that I won’t let his grandson eat this and that, while his other friends’ grandchildren eat a lot of food, those unhealthy food likes fried nuggests, fried sausages, spicy curry, sweets and etc. He thinks I abuse his grandson and not let him eat. LOL!!!

I know they love him, but in other way spoiling him. I wonder if my kid will ask his grandfather to buy him those expensive real luxury car and car accessories when he grows up.

My maid went to help at my brother in law’s house as his wife gave birth to a baby last week. So, from now on I’m going to do house chores like sweeping, mopping, washing, ironing and etc. And luckily my mother in law helps me up. LOL!!!

Besides that, I need to accompany my kid to write, ok, I don’t know what he writes, but just let him do whatever he likes. And colouring, playing, reading…..etc 

I’m drawing a circle……

looks so busy….like a manager

Mummy, comes and read to me….

These are the things I have to do every day and night this month. I hope my maid will back soon, so I can just concentrate take care of my kid. Well, if you were me, I think you don’t have to take any diet pills and will look slim like me later.

My kid is very playful or I should say him naughty. Most of the kids will become very talkative and playful after they start to school, same goes to my kid. Marcus did something that make me angry this afternoon.

He likes to take some animal toys when he takes bath. After I showered him, he threw one of his animal toys inside the toilet bowl. This is not the first time. Ok, I told myself not to scold or hit him but to advise him.

Then, it’s time for him to take a nap. When I come out from the toilet, I saw him playing and throwing the bathmat up and down. It is not the first time again. Gosh, I told myself not to get angry. This time I really want to punish him. I asked him to stand on the bathmat he played for 5 minutes……without making any noise. 

I’m lying on my bed pretend to sleep while he standing there alone looking at me pitiful. After few minutes, I asked him if he wants to play again. He said NO and started show his “manja” look to me. Then, I advised him again and wanted him to say sorry to me. LOL!!! I’m not sure whether he will play it again , but what I think is a must to punish him.  

I’m glad that I successfully trained Marcus to take potty whenever he wants pee or poo. It took me at least 3 months on training him, but it’s worth. He likes to put the potty on his head as one of his toy. I warn and keep on telling him that it’s dirty and mummy doesn’t want to see it anymore. But he gives me a smile and run away from me.

I think I need to get a toddler seat to train him on the toilet bowl. Anyway, I really happy to see his improvement these days other than potty train. I guess my maid is the most happiest as she no need to clean up the mess whenever Marcus pee on the floor anymore.

I can see many youngsters smoke and drink alcohol nowadays even though they are still in their school life. I will make sure that my kid would never involve in such activities or situation when he grows up. Thus, good parenting and education is very important for the children. It is our responsilities as parents to guide and lead them into healthy life.

I wonder how those parents feel when they know that their children involve in drug, alcohol or smoking addiction. I’m sure they must be very upset and can’t do nothing. Of course not, they can send their children to drug rehab centre to help them to turn into a new life.

I will make sure my family members to show good example to Marcus. Children learn fast through adults and I don’t want my kid to be the next victim who is involve in smoke and alcohol just like my cousin brother. Am I worry too much now ???

I have made my final decision that I will only enroll Marcus to kindergarten few months later. Many people around me said that it’s too young for him, so pity and bla..bla…bla…The principle of the kindergarten told me that actually only kids above 30 months are accepted to join, but she lets Marcus join in after seeing him that day.

I know many kids are send to nursery school at his age even below 1 year old. That’s because no one taking care of them while their parents have to go to work. Since I have my mother in law and a maid with me to take care of him, so just let him free from school for another few more months.

The school fees are quite expensive too, if I let Marcus to start next month, I need to pay RM283 monthly, where other fees like musikgarten, books, uniforms are not included. It is worth if he can learn something there. I got to know the increasing school fees for some other kindergatens too. Geee….daddy and mummy have to work hard to earn more for kid’s education. I always hope that he can grow faster so that I can send him for music class, drawing class and computer class too. *kiasumum* ???  May be, but I just want my kid to be well developed and educated. LOL!!!

I started Marcus potty train in day time weeks ago. But it seems that no improvement for him. I let him on diaperless and wear short pants at home in the day time, but he likes to pee on the floor even though the potty is in front of or near him. He is just lazy to go and take the potty. Geee…he really makes me angry sometimes. Luckily I have a maid to help me clean up the mess each time.

I know it is not easy to go through this stage, I guess it’s a hard time for everyone goes through the battle of teaching their child to potty train too. I did asked some of my friends for tips or a better way to potty train, but looks like they are also in the same situation like me.

May be I should ask other mummies in this blogging world for help through mom chat. I want to see if anyones would like to share their grief and swap tips on the best way to potty train my kid. 

I enjoy reading books to Marcus before he goes to bed every night. But he will sure take all his books to me whenever he comes to my bedroom. Sometimes I just very busy to do other things but he keeps chasing me to read the books. After I have finish to read all the books, he wants me to repeat again.

It is a good habit to start reading at young age. I prefer reading books to him than playing toys with him. In the day time, I will ask him to stand beside me and I read it to him while my eyes starring to my laptop. Hahaha….Once he knows it, he will start yell and look at me. :-) 

16) Break some rules sometimes - For example have ice cream during raining day or dinner. It’s excited and fun for children even parents too.

17) Plan meals together - Let your kids help choose dishes to make and take part in the preparation if they know things well. They will be more likely to eat what’s served.

18) Dont help too much homework  - It is easy to say as I know many parents from my centre that always helping their kids to do homework, if not they will end up sleep at midnight. Of coz nowadays school give many homework especially those well known school.

19) Let your toddle explore - Parents often dont want their children to bang big pots or do other things that messy the house, but that’s the way kids learn. My hubby is the one who always want his son clean and avoid him to mess the house. That’s why he’s a slow learner.

20) Don’t be over protective - You should try to shield your child from all dissapointments, failures situations. Kids need to learn to handle this in order to cope with their daily life in future.

11) Coin a nickname - call your child with special nickname that reflects your unique connection to him. I call my son as “boy-boy” most of the time. He has other calling name like Marcus, Lit Ean, Mr Teng. My father likes to call him as “bird-bird” and I don’t understand what is mean Well, a child with many names is a child loved many times.

12)  Read all food lables - always know that your child is eating, especially if he/she has food allergies. I’m glad that my son doesn’t has any food allergies.

13) Don’t rush to punish - Every child needs love, attention and respect. If your child is acting up, give him a big hug, listen to him and spend time with him. He will more cooperative. And both of you may feel closer to each other. But my hubby likes to scold Marcus if he is naughty. This is what I don’t like.

14) Be silly sometimes - do something silly things in front of kids like dance, laugh until cry, belch. They may also follow you. It is nice to see them act.

15) Don’t lie -Never lie in front of your kids. For example, don’t tell the caller that hubby not at home when he is sitting in the living room watching TV.

6) Think ahead about safety - When your kids know how to stand, is the time to put up the gate, cover the shape corners of tables and keep pot handles turned away from the edge of the stove.

7) Never take a bath break - Never ever answer the phone when you taking bath with your baby. I always tell my mother and mother in law if they take bath for my son. Baby can can drown just a second if left unattended. So, must be very careful.

8 ) Make photo albums - This is what I like to do. Marcus has about 5 photo albums since he was born. Take 2 hours a month to create lasting, organized family memories. As you gather photos or souvenirs, you will have time to reflect on the preciousness of your life.

9) Teach simple songs and nursery rhymes - Rhyming and singing is fun and tunes your kids in to the specific skills that are needed for reading. I will sing some simple songs and nursery rhymes before Marcus goes to sleep.

10) Choose child care carefully - Spend as much time researching what you will buy. Ask others who have bought the stuffs and give some opinion or advise.

Well, I just want to list down what I did to my son most of the day. If you think I’m right, no harm to follow it

1) Say “I love you” - Every parents may show how much love to their children through actions, but kids need and want to be told that they’re loved.

2) Wishing - Say Good Morning and Good Night every day. They know it and one day they may say it back to you too.

3) Sleep when your baby sleeps - I will take a nap when my son sleep in the afternoon if I’m not go to work. I will have more energy to take care and play with him later. Healthy parents, healthy children.

4) Double check car seat - Whenever I put my son in the carseat, I will check if it installed properly and tigh the seat bell.

5) Be romantic - kiss with your partner in front of your kids and say “I love you”….aiya, this is what I want to do but always forget it

Hubby and I always hope that Marcus can sit on the high chair each time we go out for dinner especially wedding dinner. Well, children cannot sit there and do nothing for long. They like to do something to make you angry.  

When we go out for dinner, I will bring along his favourite food, raisins or honey stars for him to pick and eat. But most of the time I will let him to eat rice if he doesn’t cry or yell. He can sit there throughout the dinner, but if we join the dinner with other relatives or friends, he will cry and not going to sit on the high chair. He needs to “warm up” first before he can manage to be sitted.  

If he grows up a bit, may be I will bring along color books and pencils for him to color or draw. This is just my plan and don’t know whether can work it or not.  I dare not to let him run around during dinner time, it will spend more effort to chase him around.

I’m Chinese educated. I know how to speak and write but not very well. I’m very weak in pinyin, so it’s quite hard for me if you ask me to blog in Chinese. But I like singing Chinese songs especially those Chinese pop songs from famous singers. 

If you like to sing Chinese songs but don’t know well in Chinese, you can look for the pinyin of it from FitFit. It is a site with some Chinese pinyin lyrics and some of them are still hot. One of my favorite songs is Mr Q from Jolin. I like to sing this song and remember the pinyin when I can’t read some of the words from it.